4 Signs that you are ready to meet “The One”

When you are single, it can sometimes feel like the whole world is coupled up, but the truth is that lots of people spend their early adulthood either single or moving through a succession of casual or short-term relationships. For most people, however, the time comes when we are looking for a deeper connection and to meet someone that we might be able to share our life with. If you are wondering if it is time to settle down with someone special, or if you would be better off keeping your social life more casual and focusing on yourself right now, here are four signs that you are ready to meet “the one”.

1. You are enjoying being single

This might seem an odd reason to consider getting into a relationship, but until you are comfortable being by yourself, you know your own worth, and do what makes you happy, you will struggle to give yourself fully in a committed relationship. If you are pursuing love with someone else when you do not have it for yourself, and your sole purpose is to find a partner, you are unlikely to make decisions that are right for you.

You need to recognize that there is more to life than romantic love, and having a partner does not define you. Oddly enough, when you have reached that point, you will have built a solid foundation on which to build a meaningful relationship.

2. You have thrown away your checklist

Unfortunately, the more relationships we have, the more dating can feel like interviewing candidates for a job. Most single people have a list of personality traits or prerequisites that a potential partner must have before they even consider going on a date with them, but lasting love is rarely so simple. When you have realized that initial attraction to physical attributes and shared casual interests (e.g., movies, sports, foods) do not equal love, you will start to look at the person on a deeper level.

You could be rejecting an ideal partner simply because they are not your usual ‘type’, or they do not meet superficial standards. With elite dating services, however, you can meet people who have been selected based on personality testing, relationship goals, compatibility, and aspirations.

3. You are thinking of your future

Dating for the sake of being with someone or to stop feeling lonely, regardless of whether you can envision a long-term future, is unlikely to end happily. In fact, you are more likely to experience more negative feelings and low self-esteem as you will be regularly risking rejection, confusion, and messy break-ups. When you know that there is no point in wasting time with just anyone if you cannot see a future, it might be time to stop the cycle.

4. You are neutral about your ex

Obviously, if you still have a romantic interest in your ex, you are stalking their social media, comparing new partners to them, then you are not over them. However, if you feel that you hate your ex and are still angry about the past, you are also not over them. Of course, there are usually lessons to be learnt from a failed relationship, and taking what you need from them as you move on is healthy, but ghosts of the past should not dominate your future. Click here for more advice on getting over an ex.

Avoiding commitment to avoid getting hurt or repeating mistakes may be effective, but it also robs you of the chance to experience meaningful love. When you feel neutral towards your ex, i.e., they rarely cross your mind and/or you wish them well, you might be ready to focus on your future.